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智慧家长对孩子放手而不撒手

发布时间:2020-06-11 作者:王殿军 来源:中国教育报

    当下,家庭教育的重要性已得到家长、学校和社会的广泛认可。但是在具体家庭教育过程中,家长往往有困惑:应该管什么不应该管什么?怎么把握家庭教育的“度”以达到好的教育效果?如何掌握对孩子既放手又不撒手的分寸,真正帮助而不束缚孩子的成长?这些都是值得每一位家长在家庭教育中思考的命题。

    “直升机”和“甩手掌柜”都不利于孩子成长

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    表率、习惯和情绪,是家长不能撒手的责任

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    家长适当放手,孩子才有成长空间

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